A woman has left This Morning viewers baffled after admitting she’s eager for her partner to leave his wife – despite only being together for a month.
Denise, from the UK, called into the ITV programme to speak with Vanessa Feltz, who appeared alongside presenters Phillip Schofield and Josie Gibson to host a phone-in offering relationship advice.
She explained: ‘I’m in a new relationship, been in it for a little while. The gentleman I’m seeing is still legally married but he’s separated from his wife and he wants to tell her that he is leaving and filing for divorce but he’s frightened that she is going to flip out.
‘So I just want some advice on how I can help him and support him through that without feeling like I’m pressuring him.’
But viewers were left perplexed after hearing ‘pushy’ Denise had only been in the relationship for a month.
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Denise, from the UK, called into the ITV programme to speak with Vanessa Feltz (pictured), who appeared alongside presenters Phillip Schofield and Josie Gibson to host a phone-in offering relationship advice
She explained: ‘I’m in a new relationship, been in it for a little while. The gentleman I’m seeing is still legally married but he’s separated from his wife and he wants to tell her that he is leaving and filing for divorce but he’s frightened that she is going to flip out. ‘So I just want some advice on how I can help him and support him through that without feeling like I’m pressuring him.’ Pictured, Phillip Schofield
Replying to Denise, Vanessa said: ‘I think that it’s quite clear that you want him to tell her as quickly as possible so you can move on openly with your relationship. You really want to. But unfortunately this is the one thing that is completely out of your control.
‘It’s his marriage. It’s his decision. How he tells her, when he tells her – and I know you’re not going to want to hear this – but if he tells her.
‘Because you never can tell when you embark on a relationship with somebody who is still technically married how seriously they are really taking you, whether they really are going to leave their wife and make it known.
‘Whether they are just feeling their way to see how they actually want to proceed. You don’t know that so obviously you want him to say “I’ve met someone else. I love her, I don’t love you. I’m leaving, goodbye” and start his new life with you free and clear and in the open air.
‘The question is what does he want? And from what I gather, you’ve only been together a very short time. How long have you been together now?’
Denise replied that they’d been together little over a month, leaving Phillip shocked.
Denise said that they’d been together little over a month, leaving Phillip (right) shocked
He said: ‘Denise, I’m so sorry, but it seems a bit unfair… If you’ve met only a month ago, I know you’ve met at work, but that’s a lot to ask someone to blow everything up in the space of a month.
‘And him being hesitant is maybe being quite thoughtful towards his wife.’
Denise added: ‘And quite normally really. And I think the reason you phoned in is you were hoping that I would say to you this is what you do. Do this, this is the formula, tell him this, behave like this and then he’ll tell her and then you can enjoy your relationship guilt-free but I can’t give you a formula for him to end his marriage. Of course I can’t. Even though you want me to, I just can’t.
‘This is something you are going to have a lot of patience [with], a lot of understanding, you’ve really got to wait and see what happens. But I think many people watching this morning will think – and I don’t want to break your heart or anything like that – but there’s no guarantee that this guy is going to end his marriage completely for somebody he has only known for a month. I don’t think you can rely on it.’
Reaction: Viewers were left perplexed after hearing the ‘pushy’ woman had only been in the relationship for a month
Phil added: ‘But also would you be prepared to give it a little bit more time for him to realise what it’s about to mean for him and his wife.’
Denise offered some firm advice, saying: ‘I really would but ideally, of course, in an ideal world, you would say to him “listen I really feel for you and obviously we’ve really fallen in love but I don’t want to carry on this relationship behind your wife’s back.
‘“You’re actually committing adultery with me and it’s not something I want to entertain so when you’ve ended it with your wife and when you’re honest and clear and decent – and also you’ve shown me you are treating her properly, you’re not just walking out on her in a horrible callous way – then I will consider a relationship with you”.
‘“But now skulking about behind someone’s back, breaking another woman’s heart, lying, don’t fancy any of that so I’m not doing it.” That would be the ideal thing to do I think.’
Viewers were left shocked by Denise’s admission, with one person writing on Twitter: ‘Ain’t no way she just said A MONTH,’ while others called her ‘pushy’.
Another said: ‘Oi Denise, you’re the bit on the side, you mind your own business,’ while a third added: ‘Denise you’re the other woman, he’s NEVER leaving his wife for you.’
A fourth individual wrote: ‘Denise, dump him and find someone less complicated.’