Malin Andersson pens message to women experiencing post-natal depression after losing a baby

She lost her baby daughter Consy last January, just one month after giving birth to her seven weeks prematurely. 

And, Malin Andersson, 26, has penned heartbreaking message of support to women experiencing post-natal depression after losing a baby.

The former Love Island star took to Instagram on Monday where she shared the incredibly emotional note alongside a throwback snap from her gender reveal.

Malin wrote: ‘*TRIGGER* (This has made me emotional digging this photo up..) …..

‘It’s a girl they said. You’re going to be so happy they said. It’s going to be everything you dreamt of and more.. they said. It doesn’t always end up like that.

‘This world is full of surprises. Cruel ones that want to teach us a lesson. The happiness I felt on this day, it was my gender reveal.

‘Knowing I was having a little girl & naming her after my mum just felt perfect and complete. Having my own family. Then she got taken from me me and I could never understand why.

‘My thoughts weren’t clear, my mind was hazed. This was a very surreal part of my life. This post is for those that have lost a child or baby, and are experiencing post natal depression and after effects of giving birth.

‘Nobody warned me about losing hair post pregnancy. Nobody warned me about milk coming out of my breasts for months.

‘No-one warned me of the hormonal emotions which would last a while. Nobody warned me of those intrusive deep thoughts I had.

‘I want this post to raise awareness on the post-natal depression that occurs even when you lose a child. We think it ends there when they pass, it doesn’t.

‘Our bodies have changed, our minds carry heart ache, and it takes a long time if ever to try and go back to normal.

‘If you’re confused and feeling anxious, not understanding your thoughts and emotions.. understand that this is normal. Please reach out and find help. Even during isolation, you can STILL get help.

‘You will be that person you once were, but stronger this time. You will be that person you once were, but with so much courage this time.

‘You will be beautifully, unapologetically you.. with so much more heart and wisdom. Keep going… @sandscharity.’

Her message came shortly after Malin – who has returned to her previous job as a carer for the elderly and terminally ill, amid the COVID-19 pandemic – reflected on her battle with suicidal thoughts.

While expressing concerns over the mental health state of those self-isolating, the reality star gave fans an insight into her own struggles.

The TV personality turned mental health and body positivity advocate spoke candidly about her own experiences in a bid to help out others.

Alongside a picture taken on a holiday in Bali, Malin warned that even when people appear to be coping, there’s no knowing how they are really feeling

Explaining that repressed emotions can come through at any time, she recalled going on holiday after the death of her daughter, believing that she was dealing with her grief, but had instead buried it.  

Recalling the holiday she took shortly after losing her baby daughter Consy, she said: ‘I was in Bali, my first real escape after Consy. I had a freeing, amazing time.

‘I then came back to normality tried to ‘live’ but I didn’t want to. Pause. This isn’t spoken enough. It’s only spoken about when it happens. Listen.

‘I was happy. People thought I was ok again, they thought I was over everything. My actions said so. My social media said so too. To everyone else I was ‘Happy’.

‘Truth: I wasn’t. I tried. I was suppressed. I wasn’t feeling my pain. I was ignoring the fact I wasn’t ok.’

If you have been affected by this story, you can call the Samaritans on 116 123 or visit www.samaritans.org.

For help with the loss of a child, contact The Lullaby Trust on 0808 802 6868 or visit www.lullabytrust.org.uk.