Mother-of-two admits there isn’t ‘one single thing’ she likes about having children – but others blame her ‘useless’ husband for making her feel that way
- Anonymous mum, from UK, claimed having children is ‘relentless boredom’
- Told how eldest child has SEN and AHD and added youngest ‘isn’t very bright’
- Asked why people ‘pretend’ having children is the most wonderful thing’
- Many took to the comments section to say they think her partner is the problem
A woman has questioned why everyone ‘pretends’ having children is the most ‘amazing wonderful thing’ when it’s just ‘relentless boredom’ – but others have blamed her ‘useless’ husband for making her feel that way.
Taking to Mumsnet, the anonymous mother-of-two, whose eldest has special educational needs and disabilities (SEN) and AHD, and youngest ‘isn’t very bright,’ explained that she can’t think of ‘one single thing’ she likes about having children.
However, many took straight to the comments section to suggest that maybe it’s not her children – and that she has a ‘husband problem’ instead.
‘I suspect you’d feel much better if your DH stepped up,’ commented one, while a second penned: ‘You seem to have it especially hard OP and it seems made 10 times harder by your useless DH.’
An anonymous mother-of-two has taken to Mumsnet and asked why everyone ‘pretends’ having children is the most amazing wonderful thing’ when actually it’s just ‘relentless boredom.’ Pictured, stock image
A third added: ‘You have a husband problem. Your kids have SEN – it’s a lot harder and I totally sympathise. Why is your husband so useless?’
In the post, the woman in question continued: ‘It’s not their fault and of course I do my best but I hate it. I’d like to walk out and never come back.’
‘Youngest one is now having to isolate for two weeks because of Covid in their school so that’s two weeks stuck in the house. Oldest one has SEN. Youngest one isn’t very bright and is already struggling in reception. Oldest one has ASD and is nowhere near as independent as most children their age.’
The woman went on to say the ‘asking for things’ and having ‘problems to solve’ is ‘relentless’ and making her ‘bored.’
The woman, whose eldest has SEN and AHD, and youngest ‘isn’t very bright,’ explained that she can’t think of ‘one single thing’ she likes about having children. Pictured, her initial post
She added: ‘All my life is is a series of stuff I don’t want to do with no let up. My youngest doesn’t sleep much and doesn’t go to bed until 10pm and is up again at 6.30. I have had enough.
Then I see fb videos and photos of people with their lovely families and children, enjoying days out, playing with their children etc and I think is it me?’
She went on to ask whether it’s just her who finds being a parent so ‘thankless and dull.’
She added: ‘It makes me anxious as well, having two other people demanding things from me and of me all the time.
I wish I’d known. I just wish I’d known.’
The woman went on to explain that she’s not a single parent but that her partner does ‘nothing’ with the children or for them (pictured)
Taking to the comments section, one person penned: ‘You have a husband problem…why is your husband so useless’ (pictured)
When asked whether she’s a single parent, the woman went on to say she’s not, but that her partner does ‘nothing’ with the children or for them.
She added: ‘They will walk past him to ask me something even if I’m in another room. Or if they ask him he just shouts me.
I just want them to go away. It isn’t their fault, of course it’s not. They are lovely children.’
‘But the fighting and squabbling, the endless moaning – it gets me down. I am bored of all of it, I don’t want to do dinner time, bath time, homework, story time, bedtime. And then by the time they are both in bed – gone 10pm, I’ve had it because I’m up at 6am.’
Many defended the woman for feeling the way she does – adding that she’s taking on far too much without the support of her other half.
‘I suspect you’d feel much better if your DH stepped up,’ commented one, while a second reassured her: ‘I have often felt like this. All I can say if that feeling like that comes and goes. A lot of parenting is relentless and a huge anxiety inducing responsibility.’